Tuesday, 3 January 2012

You are Single Not Dead

Being single does not mean that you are weak, it's mean you are strong enough to wait for what you really deserve. If you are happy and confident, you are more likely to attract the right person into your life in the first place. And most importantly when Allah (God) knows you’re ready for the responsibility of commitment, He will reveal the right person under the right circumstances. You are not going to displease Allah if you’re single (by Qadar).
But you may displease Allah(God) by your lack of thankfulness and weakness in your reliance (tawakul) in Him and giving up on life altogether. Wait patiently and be optimistic.

Some people are single but they are mentally committed to someone. That’s not very healthy for your faith.
It’s all upto Allah (God), The All-Wise, The Master who knows the secrets of your hearts even if you don’t mention them, The One who knows his weaknesses and your weaknesses and how this combination would destroy your and his life, He wouldn't let us suffer like that. You need to be patient and have faith that He will provide for you. He will give you better. He will make you happy again. He will do that because He is so Merciful. You need to trust Him. 

Single? Well I don't even care about my status cause I know Allah(God)
 is saving me for someone special.
You need to put your faith in the One who created you. Don’t waste your time searching and wishing. One day someone's gonna walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else! Grow, be patient and be ready, you’ll see Allah(God) will give you a love story far better than you could ever dream of.

Single and upset?
You might be not married to any man, like Maryam [Mary] (Allah Be Pleased With Her) and Allah(God) can make your rank higher than any women on the Earth. Know your priorities. Love and trust is with Allah(God) first.
Yes it is fact that there are many advantages to being in a relationship or marriage, but do not worry or fret if you are still single. Not everything is within our control and sometimes we do have to accept fate. So, why worry unnecessarily over something that we do not have control over? 
Do not let being single thought traped you, make you a slave to the idea of finding someone, deprive you of your ability to enjoy life and cause desperation, depression, and fear. Don’t forget that your life does not end if certain things don’t come your way. Did Allah(God) say anywhere in the Quran and Sunnah that you are worthless if you don’t get married? Being single is not a death sentence, it has own charm you enjoy life in your own way, you get more time to be with yourself, to do a variety of things, indeed you have relationship with freedom. You have lots to do, you have yourself, your friends, your family, and you have Allah(God). Get out of your mental cage, make your life’s vehicle move on.

You are still single because it’s all up to Allah (God), our future partners have or have not been already determined 50,000 years ago before this world existed. It’s because of His wisdom that you’re still single. So don’t think you care for yourself more than Allah(God) cares for you! Appreciate His wisdom.
Don’t worry too much, to have a positive attitude and enjoy your single life. Whether you are in a relationship or not, you want to be happy. If you aren't happy single, then you won't be happy taken. Happiness comes from within not from anybody else. Research shows that the number one ingredient for happiness, by far, is optimism, so change your approach learn to have more fun be happy and enjoy your life either your are single or not.
Read a related article here--> Single And Upset?


  1. nicely written, but one question... where did u get the 50000 years figure? cause i never saw it or anything near it...

  2. Salam alaykum sister, this was a great post and so true! Even though I am not a single myself, I remember having that kind of feeling: there is Mr Right for me somewhere and he comes when it is the right time. Good things happen to those who have patience to wait - and you may find the right one much before you expect ;). Blessed day for you all.

  3. @quartertoinsane: Good question... :)

    Allah has decreed all things in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz, fifty thousand years before He created the heavens and the earth.

    The creation of the universe is a subject that is given great attention in the Quran. One example of the harmony between the Quran and modern science is the subject of the age of the universe.

    Scientific approach: Astronomers estimate the age of the universe by different methods. Two ways are essential: 1) by looking for the oldest stars; and 2) by measuring the rate of expansion of the universe and the expansion rate tell them how long the galaxies have been traveling scince big bang and thus provide a rough age for the Universe NASA's Wilkinson Microwave Anisotropy Probe (WMAP) project estimates the age of the universe to be: (13.73 ± 0.12) × 109 years. The age of the universe is about three times the age of the earth.

    Our solar system is 4.567 billion years old. Earth started accreting concurrently with the sun and our neighbouring planets 4.567 bln years ago. However the universe is 13.7 ± 0.2 bln years old.

    Creation of Heavens and Earth in Six Celestial Days or Periods:

    "Undoubtedly, your Lord is Allah, Who created the heavens and earth in six days, then established Himself on the Throne befitting to His Dignity. He covers the night and day by each other following it swiftly, and made the sun and moon and stars all subservient to His command. Behold! His is the creation and command. Blessed is Allah, the Lord of the Worlds." Surah Al-A'raf : Ayat 54

    These six days symbolise celestial days and are not to be treated like the normal six days of the week in our calendar. According to the Quran the duration of each celestial day may range between 1000 and 50,000 years.

    As for instance in this verse it is pointed out.

    "He plans the affairs from the heaven to the earth, then it will return to Him in a day whose measure is a thousand years in your counting." Surah As-Sajda : Ayat 5

    "The angels and Jibrael ascend towards Him. That chastisement will fall on a day the measure of which is fifty thousand years." Surah Al-Ma'arij : Ayat 4

    This verse refers to the ascent of angels and the spirit (meant to be Angel Gabriel) back to heaven after settling all matters of life in the universe.

    The verse clearly said a day that "was" and not a day that "is", which clearly indicates that that day was in the past (50,000 years ago).

    Allah Knows Best.

  4. @Nadia: Waleikum Assalam...
    Thanks for appreciation and kind words... :)
    Stay Blessed

  5. Asma

    This is such a wonderful post, Masha-Allah. Thanks for posting this, it really is optimisic and inspiring. Your words are so true and well written. May Allah Almighty reward you for always sharing good and positive posts with us.

    Stay well

  6. oh... thanks for that additional info. m sorry if u had to through trouble for all that..

  7. @Zarina Hassem: Thanks a lot for kind & sincere words, these are really encourage me... :)
    Stay Blessed

    @quartertoinsane: Any time... :)
    Ohhh no need of sorry... :) I'm here to learn & share something positive and informative... :)
    Stay Blessed

  8. you have written it so well Asma and based on my experience it is better to be single rather than committing yourself with the wrong guy..

    Stay blessed ;)

  9. Asalamoalaykum Asma,

    Mashaa'Allah, a great article! May Allah SWT reward you abundantly.Ameen. JazakiAllahu khayran for linking it up with my article :)

    Keep writing and keep sharing inshaa'Allah.

    Much love,
    -Umm Sulaym

  10. @Umm Sulaym: Walekim Assalam...
    Thank you for visiting my site and commenting , really happy to see you here... :)
    Ameen to your prayer...
    It's really honor to take points from your article... :)

    Insha Allah; I will do my best.

    Love you back.
    Stay Blessed

  11. hey awesome post, i came there to read your post when u left a comment on mine on wordpress " nalaik panda "
    hey jazakALLAH! , its the must read post for the youngsters ,for me and for every one.
    and one thing
    being a single is like a kid in the candy shop ;)

  12. @demonsking19: Thanks for visiting my blog and dropping by... :)
    LoL nice and sweet quote for singles... :)

  13. A really nice article...

    Nice Blog...

  14. I wish our families would understand this :)

  15. @CuteMehak: Share your views and feelings with your family, hope they will understand... :)

  16. I was craving for a love, relationship, marriage throughout my life like a crazy. At one point, I started to hate myself. My family gave me all the freedom to achieve any other dreams. But I was freaking crazy! I asked everyone around me to find me a husband. Even I started to find a husband for me, which was stupid. God was and still is kind enough to me that He saved me from several dangers.

    After reading your article, I have decided that I will start to love and respect myself. If I can't love me, nobody is going to love me. If God wants, I will get married to a nice person. But if He doesn't want, I will have a holy life and will start afterlife with great harmony.

    Thanks Asma. Keep it up, sister. May Allah give you in return.