Thursday, 4 August 2011

Guard Your Heart Girls

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Heart is so precious and fragile, and yet so complicated, that there are parts and feelings it holds that are specially reserved as a gift for married couples. This results in the need for us to be alert and guarding our hearts at all times; primarily, when it comes to relationships. 

This is especially true for females, who tend to have a God-given desire to be loved, cherished, protected and understood by an earthly, godly man. This is not a bad thing at all, except for when we go seeking it from a bunch of different guys through flirting or relationships, instead of realizing that Allah (God) already fulfills this desire, and only our God-given future husband could help amplify it.
Sadly though, too often then not, girls tend to give out keys to their hearts to a bunch of different guys who they take a fancying too. Girls give it out to “close” guy friends, guys they have crushes on, and guys that enter into relationships with. This is so dangerous and destructive to not only you, but also to that special, reserved gift that your heart holds, that God wants you to give only to your future husband. 

You see, when you willingly give out these keys to your heart, you allow the guy to unlock your heart anytime he wants, and to cause you even more pain—especially when the relationship ends.


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Girls, protect the key to your heart, the key to your wellspring of life.
You have allowed a guy(or quite a few) to see and experience the intimacy of knowing you on that deep of a level, and unlocking that special, reserved gift. By not guarding your heart and by handing out keys to other guys, you end up having to experience the pain of that gift being torn apart and mistreated. You become known as “easy” to get, guys brag it up to their friends on how they “conquered” you, you feel like you’ve lost your value, you feel guilty for neglecting to guard your heart, you feel used, you may get depressed, you may lower your standards and morals; the list of emotions and actions that you may experience as a result is endless and varies for each girl, yet one thing is certain—all girls will feel hurt.

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Are you watching…
1. What You Say: Are you waiting to say “I love you” until you hear it, and can earnestly say it in return, and feel as though this person is “the one” from God? Are you telling boys about your secret hopes and dreams, your deep, intimate, personal thoughts? 
(such as your wedding dreams, ways that a guy could win over your heart, etc)
2. Your Physical Contact: Are you guarding your interaction with the opposite sex? Are you giving out too many front-on, tight, long hugs instead of quick, friendly, side hugs? Are you saving your kisses for someone who actually deserves them, someone you are serious with, or are you kissing another girl’s future husband?

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3. How You Conduct Yourself: Are you being flirtatious and constantly trying to be the center of attention around guys, or are you protecting yourself, respecting your future husband, and helping to protect the hearts of the guys around you? Do you wear your heart on your sleeve, and tend to be a “pity and protect me” type of girl, instead of a girl who is looking out for others, and whose Protector is God?

4. What You Think: Are you hoping that this guy you like will ask you about something so you can spill your heart out to him? Do you imagine and fantasize about situations in which this specific boy wins your heart, protects you, cherishes you, has “deep, emotional conversations and contact with you” etc? 

Girls, you are presious like jewles; Allah (God) loves you so much! He does not want to see you go through such unnecessary pain, but instead wants to help protect your heart. When you surrender the master key of your heart over to Allah (God), He will protect it, not allow anyone to abuse it and will only hand it over to “the one” He has hand-picked out for you.

Post Has Been Taken From Blog "The Hopeful Romantic" 

39 comments:

  1. what you wrote it is need of today dear,girls must have confidence in themselves, recognition for good and bad,strong will power and above all faith in dear creator that he will send a correct person for them on right time,

    thanks for lovely sharing dear god bless

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  2. @Baili: Rightly said... :)
    Stay Blessed

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  3. Very very nice article asma :) but do follow this post by yourself too :P

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  4. @Fahad: Thanks... :)
    I'm already following... :P

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  5. i have witnessed girls who are just too hasty to get in a relationship apparently with THE WRONG GUY. if they could just wait for the one who truly respects them, they wont get hurt in the end. great post:)

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  6. @Kiran Ashraf: Indeed, and this post is especially for those hasty girls... :)

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  7. I have social anxiety disorder, so that is the barrier from me entering in a relationship. I can't even flirt because I'm so anxious all the time.

    While this post made me feel guilty (I crush a lot D:), I think it was very useful and great. Modesty is a wonderful quality in a girl.

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  8. Conclusion, i should havee all the keys. :P
    interesting post.
    loved it.

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  9. Some girls are more vulnerable than others; hence, are easy targets because of the emotionality or immaturity or both on their part, yet all without wisdom.
    Nevertheless, the flawed upbringing of kids and particularly of the young girls by their parents is mainly to be blamed for the social vices.
    Furthermore, due to lack of training at home, emotionality remains uncontrollable which eventually plays a big role in making these girls an easy prey to the rascals.
    Resultantly, such girls are taken advantage of their dominated personality by the dominating machos.
    In view of the delicacy of the situation, the society has to play a big role to secure this type of fragility.

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  10. aww I wrote a very long comment and it said it wont get posten as I got dc in the mean-while:(
    now I loved this read asma..we women are made of delicate material and Allah has tagged our heart as Ankaboot...matlub makri ka ghur...and thus the men are entrusted with the duty of guarding their women...keeping a safe distance is the only way to keep our heart safe...dignity is priceless so why waste your honor and feelings on somebody who aint worth it? why nt wait for the right guy ! beautiful post;)

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  11. @Beyond Timid: You must be joking... :)

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  12. @TARIQ MIAN: Rightly said :)

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  13. @Mishi: Awww :(
    True, that is what I meant, wait for one who deserve you the most... :)

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  14. You have nailed it very well. Sadly! girls only understand after they have given away all copies to strangers.....with no intention to safeguard ur property.

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  15. Beautiful post hon. Golden words.
    My latest post:
    http://pandorasssbox.blogspot.com/2011/08/krizmah-designer-bags-with-conscience.html

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  16. @Aiman: Thanks... :)

    @Pandora's Box: :)

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  17. Beautiful Post. Every woman should be able to read this. Especially teenagers, they must be educated about the thingy around us.. be guided and guarded!

    as usual, loving your post.

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  18. @Diane: That's why I shared this article ... :)

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  19. yeah, thanks for this lovely post. always great.

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  20. Great Post... Your seriously doing some really good work here...

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  21. Like the article, it's really true, but it's also true that as you said, we, womans, "tend to have a God-given desire to be loved, cherished, protected and understood by an earthly, godly man." but we have to wait for the correct one, maybe difficult, but true.

    Salam,

    somethinglikethis-laila.blogspot.com

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  22. @Laila: It's difficult but patience always gives sweet fruits to enjoy for the rest of the life... :)
    Wasalm Dear :)

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  23. Loved it & hit follow. You're a gifted person. Keep writing.

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  24. @Ezazi: THnaks for the visit & comment... :)
    Stay Blessed

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  25. Its a "timely- needed" post indeed!
    very true & I just want to say that girls must be enough strong to choose wisely between right and wrong!

    Stay blessed!

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  26. @Shayana: Stay Blessed.... :)

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  27. "When you surrender the master key of your heart over to God, He will protect it, not allow anyone to abuse it and will only hand it over to “the one” He has hand-picked out for you"...this part made my tears flow. Jazakum Allah khair

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  28. @Islam: Have faith & Stay Blessed.... :)

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  29. since long i was looking to read such a good script on this topic!!! exactly what people need to understand and guard themselves. Be modest and wait for ur right time. "naseeb sy zyada aur waqt sy pehlay nae milta."

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