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Happy is the person who finds fault with himself instead of finding fault with others.
I really feel bad whenever I see people comment on posts of facebook pages that are about affairs of famous personalities those belong to electronic media or politics etc. I don't know why people feel eager to comment in more biased way and use cheapest words for them, don't they know who are we to poke our nose into their matters or to judge them badly and gossip about their life. We are not judge and jury, it’s arrogant to judge anybody. We don’t know their whole story so why we assume. To me it's not freedom of speech but judging others unfairly. After all no one enjoys to being judged.
All things, big and small, invite our judgement. The condition of the weather, political matters, the taste of food, a television programs and actors etc. Judgement mostly mostly stands on criticism we should take a step back and realize our judgements aren't always right. A great deal of our judging of others is mis-judging or unjust judging. It's wrong to judge people unfairly.
The act of judgement is an act of pride because judging others energize pride. We put ourselves above other people when we make judgement about them. We think we know others intentions or we know where their heart stands. It’s stupid. And it only brings us down.
Some people are insecure and feel good by judging (gossip, criticise, belittle others & finding faults) others and making fun of others to satisfy their own inner and try to cover their own weaknesses and insecurities.
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We all know deep down inside we can’t really judge another person.
Any judgement we make has no basis, Allah is the Judge and He will judge the people for indeed we do not know what is in the hearts of others, rather Allah knows what is in the breasts of mankind.
Islam demands fairness and impartiality when it comes to judging others. Talking about other people on the basis of mere suspicion or hearsay and making wrong judgement and assumption is forbidden.
Allah says in Quran:
'O believers! Stand-up firmly by the Commandments of Allah, bearing witness with justice and let not the enmity of any people incite you that you should not do justice. Do justice that is nearer to piety and fear Allah, undoubtedly, Allah is aware of your doings. Surah Al-Maidah : Ayat 8
The hypocrite looks for faults, the believer looks for excuses.
Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and salutations be upon him) said, "Should you become eager to mention another’s faults, recall your own." (Ar-Rafi)
The one better thing what can we do is to have the default assumption about other people in any matter and we should fix, support, help, guide and teach each other to become better people.
Beautiful post! The elephant and the camel analogy was excellent as was the fish and the tree one.
ReplyDeleteWe shouldn't judge for we can never know why a person does or doesn't do something or what goes on inside them.
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@Nas: Yeah these are... :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your kind words...
Stay Blessed
rightly written... and the analogies were spot on
ReplyDelete@quartertoinsane: Thank you... :)
ReplyDeleteI agree to every word u've written!!! Who are we to judge??? We have no right to be judgemental. We don't why people react the way they react... What made them so bitter... so cynical!!! Once Upon a time, I used to be judgemental but Trust me I stopped judging people a longgggg time ago. I hope and pray that everyone does too...
ReplyDeleteLoved your post!!
@Aliza Khan: Ahan! nice to know that you stopped judging long ago... :)
ReplyDeleteVery good post Asma. Judging others is unfortunately something we tend to do too often.
ReplyDeleteThis is not for us to do so - each circumstance, each life is different. We are here to improve ourselves and on this special subject we have a lot to do.
Thank you very much for your always interesting posts. Stay well dear.
@MarieHarmony: Thanks Marie... :)
ReplyDeleteYeah we have to control our tongues when it comes to talking about other people...
Anytime... :)
Be Blessed Always
I love that last line!! Will def. keep that in mind. Recently I was reading something - forgot where...I think MuslimMatters - but it was about not allowing the ppl who judge you to affect you b/c you will give them the status of being perfect judges which they aren't. Great post!
ReplyDelete@sippingchai: Good to know... :)
ReplyDeleteThank You...
Nice post Asma..an awareness for all of us..I was judged by people because of my past so I secluded myself for years but I am glad I did survived..so now I avoid judging others because I have felt the pain of being judged by others..networking sites now are really full of hurting words sometimes even degrading people and mocking them..as what I always say..see yourself first before casting the first stone to anyone..passing by Asma ;)
ReplyDelete@Sie: Thanks...
ReplyDeleteRightly said... :)
'The hypocrite looks for faults, the believer looks for excuses.'
ReplyDeleteAgreed to this over all it is a very nice post.
Stay Blessed.
Take Care
@anummunaf: Stay Blessed... :)
ReplyDeleteAllah knows best.
ReplyDeletean example of misjudging someone is:
when a girl looks at another girl then tells her so-called friends, 'look at that chia, she thinks she's so cool'
what makes that girl think that the other girl was thinking of how 'cool' she was? only Allah knows our thoughts and feelings. only Allah can judge us, yes Asma :)
@Mariam: Yes, there are many examples of judging others wrongly... :)
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